Researching Love?

A lot of women feel the need to do "research" and analysis on why they're single.  Don't get me wrong, I've fallen into the trap before.  There are few things I enjoy more than a witty dating blog (ahem) or watching a reality show like Millionaire Matchmaker. 

While these can certainly be entertaining, I think we sometimes put too much stock in the lessons that these shows teach.  Tough Love is a perfect example.  I adore Steve Ward and would love to sleep with him (oh yeah, it's out there.  And I mean it.).  That being said, I don't know that all his rules are really rocket science.  I mean, don't be weird?  Seriously?  There are women that you have to TELL to not be weird?  It boggles my mind.  Patti Stanger has some seriously biting quotes and advice too.  I have curly hair, and I still take offense to the idea that "no one wants to date a Brillo pad".  That being said, I am hit on 5X more when my hair is straight.  So, maybe she is on to something.

I started watching Miss-Advised on Bravo and only got through one episode.  It is legitimately painful.  I don't buy that any of those women could be deemed a "relationship expert".  Now, I don't necessarily believe that if I saw myself on a date on TV that it would be flawless, but I'd like to believe that I don't come off like a total crazy person.  At a minimum, I wouldn't have a conniption over drinking hot chocolate.

At the end of the day, no one can explain why or how we're single or in a relationship.  I dated a guy who said it was all about timing and luck, and I totally believe that.  Some people are fucked up headcases, absolutely.  But I know a few who are that are in successful relationships.  I can research and watch reality shows ad nauseum, but it's not going to get me a date unless I get the hell off my couch and into a bar/grocery store/over to my desk chair and onto an online site.

By the way, Day 2 has yielded my first lesbian request.  From an 18 year old.  That being said, I am corresponding with 3 potential guys who seem fun.  Who knows though - that changes quickly.  I also definitely dropped the 4th guy from yesterday.  It was like talking to a brick wall via email.  If you can't write a complete thought and ask questions, this is never going to work.